Sex Addiction - A point of view

"does the alcoholic not love his sober life ? do you think that the alcoholic wants to loose everything because of his drinking.. including his life . do you think huge people want to continue to eat and get bigger ???..sex addiction is very real ... why would a man /woman want to loose all his possessions ..kids and even risk death ..most cheaters and players are sex addicts ...they are addicted to the high that they get from the conquest ..they want to be loved and love ... this is why cheaters sometimes commit suicide after cheating ..its not because they are afraid of getting caught or because they got caught ..its because they hate what they have done ..they actually cant think rationally when they are leading up to cheating and doing it ..but after they cheat reality comes crashing down ..I'm not saying stay with a cheater ..or to forgive a cheater ..but pity a cheater ..his/her self destructive behavior is not making them happy ...sex addiction is one of the worse addictions ..the high you get from a sex fix only last seconds ... then sets in remorse ..and gradually then the need for your next fix comes back ..and you can no longer think straight ...but the low during the remorse immediately after someone has cheated is the worst a person can feel .. with alcohol at least you don't sober up instantly and have to face your destruction ..with sex you instantly have to face what you have done ...the only way to anesthetize yourself is to lie to everyone including your self ...every lie a sex addict tells to someone else he has already told to himself 

some women live with alcoholics for years ..giving them chance after chance... sometimes even after he has lost everything from his drinking ..and some do with cheaters also ... but I submit that they are both variants of the same animal .. In my twenties I was a sex addict ..I played till I lost all my friends ...my reputation .my job and I actually got fired for getting caught having sex at work ..with a customer ... the best thing that could have happened to me .. It forced me to face that I couldn't control my sex life .. at the time if I had been married I would have cheated no doubt ... it took years to gain control of sex ..I fought sex addiction for the next 25 years .. only after age diminished my sex drive a bit did it become something I no longer had to fight daily ... only the last 8 to 10 years have I controlled my sexual thoughts ....instead of continually fighting to keep them from controlling me ... a sex addict never is cured until age cures him ... one can however learn to fight/control their addiction ..so the old phrase I have heard is true ...a cheater/addict is always a cheater/addict ...but one can learn to stop cheating / letting their addiction control them

If you marry someone who has cheated on a past relationship ..they will still have the addiction that made them cheat the first time ..the trauma of the consequences of that cheating may have taught them how to avoid cheating on you but the addiction will always be there"