Alberoni Theory

"Alberoni Theory

In his socio-psychological theory Francesco Alberoni states that falling in love is a process of the same nature as a religious or political conversion.

He believes that people fall in love when they are ready to change, or to start a new life.

According to Alberoni, falling in love is a rapid process of destructuration-reorganization called the nascent state.

In the nascent state, a state of pure creative energy, the individual loses his or her previous identity, and becomes highly fluid and capable of merging with another person to create a new "us," a unit of two that is highly charged with solidarity and eroticism.

The new couple realizes their dreams, aspirations, and unexpressed potential through one another, and develops a shared life project and common view of the world.

Individuals in the nascent state put one another through tests, which if successful eventually give way to a solid love relationship, and the forming of new identities and life structures formed by the merging of the two individuals.

Alberoni does not consider falling in love as a regression, but instead as a launching of oneself towards the future and change, and as fundamental to the formation of a romantic partnership."

Source : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Falling_in_love

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