Love Cheat

"One of my exes (not from Texas) cheated whenever she could because her thinking was that she had to sleep with someone so they would like her, when the truth came out, I was devasted. It was like being emotionally and or psychologically abused.

I tried to forgive her but her past misdeeds always played with my thoughts and I worried excessively about what health ramifications her reckless behaviour could potentially have on me and herself.

It got so bad I had a hard time looking in her eyes when we made love and within a short time frame, we separated.

She committed suicide close to one-year after we parted ways which also had devasting effects on my life and my thoughts about women and people in general, for many years after.

I never once cheated on her (or any girlfriend), had many opportunities and she accused me of it quite often. Soon it became apparent that her accusations towards me were to cover who own misgivings, if in her mind I'm cheating, then she might as well too. People try maintain and live monogamous lives but in truth I do not believe we are made to be like that, as many studies have shown. Unfortunately people seem to think that the most important aspect of a relationship is sex, when in fact it is mutual respect, trust and a desire to live a life that is two becoming one. Which gender cheats more? My personal experience is that women cheat more then men but it is likely very close in comparision and percent points.

Once a cheat always a cheat? That is my belief. I once met a beautiful, intelligent funloving lady. We went out a few times and became intimate, soon after (about 30 mins) her boyfriend arrived at her apartment and the sh*t hit the fan.

She started with the "I want to leave him", "I told him we were through" and so forth and we continued to see each other socially for a few weeks (no intimacy). I soon realized that if I was to get together with her in a relationship and she left the other guy, she was apt to do the same thing to me, which I heard she did to the next fool that fell for her.

The bars are filled with married, engaged, or dating people away from their partners who after a few drinks become more then willing to destroy the trust and respect that they had with their partner, why? Because they do not seem to know the difference between pleasure and happiness and love and sex.

The few moments of pleasure become more important then a lifetime of happiness. People like that who live their lives with the sole purpose of their own gratification and experiencing pleasure at the expense of others are simply a waste of skin and time, they are currently a dime a dozen in the bar, many churches and other meat markets or more likely representative of 50% of the adult population."

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