For Women Having A "I Hate Men Moment"

It is normal for a woman to have an "I hate men" moment once in a while but ....

From a forum post

"An article of a different source.....

It is food for thought when women are having a "I hate him" moment. Think of it as a Dummies guide to owning a Man. I

1. Respect that men have been stewards of this world a long time.

This does not mean that women have no place in said world. What it means is that men have a reason for being the way they are. They are forced to fight, to protect the better elements of the general community and society in which they live. Yes some men are clueless and easily lead astray. But that is not the norm unless they live in a society that is theological or tyranny based, where such stupidity is cultivated in order to ensure obedience to the SOB running things (not far unlike what out society is becoming now due to the increase in authoritarian azzkissers incidently). 

Most men pride themselves on fulfilling the role of social pillar, and are frankly sick of female culture that constantly criticizes and questions our role in the world. We are not referring to equality and liberation type questions, but stupid questions like "why can't men be more sensitive?","why can't men understand us?", "why can't men do as they are told?" etc etc. 

Men have learned by blood and tears that they have to be decision makers at times in order for survival to work in everyones favor. Neo-feminism teachs that men are not worthy decision makers, because women know better. This amounts to be superiority based thinking that no man will tolerate, not even in someone he may have love for. If the female gender wants equality then it had better act like it, or go buy a poodle that you can lead around on a lease if you need to feel in charge.

Society works when men contribute to it. On the other hand society does not work when any one group feels itself privileged and superior to others in the role of leadership, based on hot air and personal gain -- read: modern women. Elitism in either gender is a load of crap, and has no place in a functional society. 

2. Do not use Emotion to communicate something important

This means one simple thing, talk to a man in a way that communicates in man talk. Do not try to pull what most women do by using tears and emoting to communicate something you think is important. Doing otherwise leads to the “cry wolf” syndrome that men are well aware of. After using this form of communication one too many times a man will decide he has had enough of it. 

Emotions may evoke certain kinds of womanly desired responses out of us, and yes we will be there when you need us to help deal with the pain. But if your emotional state is that damaged that you cannot function without this constant need for reassurance and attention, then something is wrong with you. Accept it. Get help. Don’t be surprised if we grow annoyed with it. Men generally seek to solve their problems and better themselves. If that is something you cannot grasp, then you are in for a troubled life.

As a gender rule we do not use emotional communication or waterworks to make a point, because it makes us feel and look weak – and we know it. There are more powerful and meaningful ways to communicate emotion without the display of pity and attention seeking. Any desire we have to be protective or helpful will dwindle and disappear when you have to emote on us on a daily basis. 

On that note – if you watch soap operas – get psychological help and get a real life. There is no bigger red flag to men then a woman who is hooked on soaps opera brain drivel. Share these highs and lows about how Luke is messing around on Laura with your cats, and not with us.




3. DON’T PLAY GAMES!

For men there is nothing more irritating then this type of foolishness. Of course some women already know this, hence why they do it. If playing games in communication is how you find validation within your relationship, then you are a sick individual. What you are doing amounts to emotional and intellectual abuse. Again it may work a few times, but once the line in the sand is drawn – it’s over. See point 5 below for more insight.

The entire process of emotional blackmail is like a cat that goes out and catches a bird, then plays with and tortures it before killing it, or leaving it alive and traumatized so that the cat can hunt and torture it again another day. That is how men see women who play games. That is why we react so angrily to that kind of behavior when we see it. It is outright abuse and violence carried out by women to destroy and damage other males. Few things will piss us off as much as having to watch a brother or friend having to go through this kind of needless torture, just to find “love”. 

When men witness this behavior in other men, then we will go to war and kill the other people to make the world a better place. 

It is a simplistic logic to a woman’s mind – but that is how we see it. The world deserves peace, harmony, freedom, liberty, etc etc. As a gender we have not been running things and making wars all these centuries with no goal in mind. The reason most men will pick up a rifle and fight another man is to insure that his children do not have to live in a world where other men play abusive dictatorial games. If we think this way about other males, what makes you think we are going to put up with this kind of crap from you for very long?? 

Women often complain then men are users, abusers, manipulators, etc. It is stupid logic to think that we will tolerate this behavior either from you lot. Just because you repackage it into a different form does not make in any less the same thing. Remember this most important rule and you will often find that men are forgiving creatures when it comes to most mistakes. Misuse this knowledge and you get what you sow. Do not whine about him being emotionally distant when you try kind of crap either. 

4. Learn to think and be aware of the rational world.

Like it or not this is a world where logic and rational thinking has to take priority over emotion and want. A woman who cannot grasp this fundamental concept is just a burden on the rest of us, and is in no way attractive or good company. It does not matter how hot you look, or how rich you are. If you are a spoiled and infantile person then you better get used to owning cats.

5. We are protectors. That is our job.

Women hate a man who looks out for them, as if somehow such actions are an affront to their equality and liberty. This is a load of rubbish. It is also a source of much heated debate because it is a part of the male psyche that women totally fail to comprehend. 

It is as much biological as your attachment to your children is. We do it because we know we are supposed to. Turn on us for it and tell us how independent you are all you want. We are not going to change. There is a very important survival reflex at play here. You need to be aware of it so that it does not come back and bite you in the ass. Don’t bother pouting or trying to think you can control this in your man, because you cannot. We are fighters by nature, and as much as we know we need to keep that monster at bay until needed then do not (NOT EVER!) take things to the point where this reflex is awakened in men. Not only will you no longer have our respect but in some cases you will find weaker minded men do not deal with the criticism well.

Do not sit there and insult us by thinking you know more about resolving matters through violence then we do. That is what we are raised for. We understand the damage it can cause, but we also understand the justifications for it (well most of us do). 

If we sense danger we will generally go and deal with it. Despite what some of you may think of us, we do not prefer it. It is a side of our psyche that we have to embrace at times in order to be able to control it. When we let it out for the wrong reason then yes we should be punished for it. But violence is part of who we are. We know that it is not a good thing, and we spend our entire lives containing and masking it. But never the less it is a skill that any good protector must know. Our obsession with controlling it is what is generally behind our obsession with it at times. 

Violence is a last resort because it always has consequences. There is a reason why men try to resolve differences with talk first instead of with fists. Tolerance and patience may sometimes be misplaced, but at the same time there is a valid rational behind trying to reason with someone first. If we sense that the other person cannot be reasoned with then we will resort to violence. It may not be nice, but it solves things. It is a harsh side of reality that has to be dealt with harshly at times.

The problem is when women act like total azzholes and think because they are women that they are immune to this same kind of logic being applied to them. This is dangerous ground ladies that you need to be aware of. Some men in the world are hot tempered and not comfortable dealing with others who abuse them. We go silent at times because we are using what works best at tempering that monster and the emotions that go along with it. If you learn anything useful from this article it is that when a man goes silent over such things, it is time for you to stop yapping and just take a step back. You would not walk up to a angry dog and lecture it, so practice some common self preservation and do not do it to a man either. That might work on some mommas boys, but not on a real man. 

If you are one of the people who think you can escape unscathed from someone that you torment and torture, then you are placing yourself at risk. That is not to justify any violence men do at all. This section is just to explain to you how misunderstandings can and do happen in a very negative way when you try to attack men openly for the very nature that they possess and are taught to be.

Think of it this way. Imagine if you were a man and walked up to another man with your current attitude. What do you think would happen? When you force a man into a corner where he has to protect himself from you, then everyone loses. Something to ponder.

BTW on a side note Respect our right to be silent and think something through, and give us the room to do it. That is why men have peace talks between nations. It brings that time to cool down and think factor into play. The option to that is unthinkable, but why create the circumstances that provoke it?


6. We honored your equality. Now stop complaining about what you lost.

You have your equality. Now live with it. It is not our fault that it has made you so unhappy. Guess what, it has made us unhappy now too because we have to put up with your unhappiness and also have to take all the blame for it. Now that you have made most people miserable -- congratulations. Worked out really well for both genders now didn’t it?

That is not to say that equality is not needed. While equality does not really exist in nature, any society that does not practice it as a rule is doomed to fail. That is why some of these third world dirt holes we try to go and save are just a bunch of losers, where helping them is a hopeless cause unless you go in with a gun and force positive change.

Men do not hate equality. Just stop using it as a crutch please. You gave up some of the old to get the new. You cannot have it both. Trying to have both worlds means there is no balance in our society any longer, and voila – chaos.

The flip side of that coin relates to the previous point. While industrialization may have changed male roles to primary breadwinner, this is just a modification of the protective instinct. Pretty much the same rules apply. Rejecting men who think this is the case has resulted in a new generation of men who are beginning to reject their roles as protectors too. It is not that we are lazy or worthless, but that we see all of this as women no longer needing us, so why fulfill the role of protector, bread earner, shelter builder, etc.

The point of all this – women have asked for a society where they are on equal footing as men. Yet they are having a hard time living up to this ideal, because quite frankly there is no such thing as real equality. We all have our special places in society, some of that gender based. If you do not want men to have a place in that equation, then why are you surprised that we no longer want to cater to anything you think we should do? Why are you demanding that we treat you differently simply because you are female. Sadly ladies – that is the price of equality.

So when you are on dating sites saying you want a “real man”, then don’t be surprised if we get a good laugh at your deluded ideals. You want the romanticism, the breadwinner (financially stable) male, the good looking ken doll man, or “the man you can respect for being a man” even though what you want is not a real man. Well duh!

7. Respect is earned

Like most things in the male world, if we do not respect you then we are not going to trust or listen to you. This fact alone really peeves women off, and we know it. You want respect but you are generally not willing to grant it to anyone else unless they cater to your irrational and emotional thoughts. Well that is not going to happen. Men may do this for a short time out of some romantic ideal of loyalty, but don't expect it to last. One day he will wake up and realize that you are being a manipulative azzhat, and demand it stop. If you don't stop, then your relationship is done like dinner.

What women fail to understand is that it does not take all the baggage of female culture for a man to have respect, and thus tolerance for your idiocies. We all have stupid moments or strange quirks. Most men get that and are willing to put up with it. We tolerate our stupid friends and their ways, so by default we do the same thing with significant women in our lives. 

But don't push it. There is no worse thing a woman can do then push any man’s emotional buttons just because she wants to see a rise out of him. This is just asking for trouble in a relationship on all levels. Nothing good will come of it, no matter what Cosmo or Women’s Quarterly or Oprah tells you to the contrary. Learn to smell the reality this can breed, otherwise you will not like the cost in spades that will come back to you when he walks out the door. Loose a mans respect in this way and you are finished in more ways then one.

In summary ..... men are not the enemy. Don't make them an enemy by playing games, disrepecting what they value or do, by attacking their generations of accomplishments, or by using them as pawns to get what you want. 

Now …..go out and do your part for world peace. It really is that simple.

We are not really that complicated to understand."